About the Pledge

When you take the pledge, you’re making a difference.

Chicago Says No More is focused on ending the silence and changing the way that America talks about—and doesn’t talk about—domestic violence and sexual assault. It’s about ending the excuses and misinformation that are used to shelter this American epidemic.


This needs to be a truly national conversation. And for that to happen, Chicago needs to lend its voice, to pledge and to say: No More.


About Us

Learn more about Chicago Says No More

Chicago Says No More is dedicated to addressing the challenges of domestic violence and sexual assault in the Chicago metro area and across Illinois. It is aligned with the national NO MORE campaign that was started by a coalition of leading advocacy groups, service providers, and major corporations.


The initial goals of Chicago Says No More are to:

  • Marshal resources of the Chicago metro area to combat domestic violence and sexual assault.
  • Change the culture and conversation about domestic violence and sexual assault so citizens can make a difference.
  • Provide fresh, innovative ways to leverage resources offered by myriad not-for-profit domestic violence and sexual assault organizations by establishing system-wide solutions to challenges they experience.

Everybody gets a wake-up call. Mine was the shooting tragedy at Nordstrom on Michigan Avenue in Chicago in November 2014 when 22-year-old University of Chicago student Nadia Ezaldein was murdered by her ex-boyfriend. Not just a murder, but the tragic end to an abusive relationship—I was shocked to recognize that this, too, was domestic violence.


The problem is that this happens every day in many different kinds of places and within families in all social and economic groups where it doesn’t always garner the same amount of attention. The level of incidence is alarming.


Domestic violence and sexual assault thrive when people turn a blind eye – making excuses, not wanting to get involved. But now it’s time. Please join me and other Chicagoans in saying: No More.

Kristie Paskvan
Founder, Chicago Says No More

Steering committee

Kristie Paskvan, Founder

Chicago Says No More

CFO and COO, Mesirow Financial


Deanne Benos, Executive Director



Lauran Bromley


Debbie Buckley, Director

Community Partnerships & Business Development

CBS 2 Chicago


Joyce M. Coffee, CEO

Executive Director

Family Rescue, Inc.


Daniel J. Conti, Ph.D., Managing Director

Employee Assistance & WorkLife Program

JPMorgan Chase & Co.


Rev. Charles W. Dahm, O.P., Director

Domestic Violence Outreach

Archdiocese of Chicago


Rebecca Darr, Chief Executive Officer



Pat Davenport, Executive Director

A Safe Place


Wendy Dickson, Domestic Violence Director

YWCA Evanston/North Shore


Kathy Doherty, Executive Director

Chicago Metropolitan Battered Women’s Network


Ellie Forman, Manager

Corporate Community Relations

Mesirow Financial


Carol Gall, MA, CDVP, Executive Director

Sarah’s Inn


Neusa Gaytan, Senior Vice President


Mujeres Latinas en Acción


Radhika Sharma Gordon, MPH, Manager

Outreach and Education

Apnar Ghar


Deborah Graham, Senior Advisor

Illinois State Treasurer


Jennifer Greene,  Policy Director

Life Span


Rachel Haas, Manager

Communications & Digital



Qadira Harris, Lead Consultant

Corporate Social Responsibility

Allstate Foundation


Keri Holleb Hotaling, Partner

Jenner & Block LLP


Linda Imonti, Principal

Advisory Services



Annie Krug, Executive Director of Institutional Affairs

The John Marshall Law School


Sarah Layden, Interim Executive Director

Rape Victim Advocates

Maria C. Lin, Director

Human Resources

Northwestern Medicine


Mary MacLaren, Retired Executive Director

The Executives’ Club of Chicago


Yesenia Maldonado, Executive Director

Between Friends


Jessica McCarihan, Board President

A New Direction


Dr. Alicen-J. McGowan, LCPC

Child Psychotherapist


Dorri McWhorter, Chief Executive Officer

YWCA Metropolitan Chicago


Vicki Meilach, ICDVP, Community Outreach Coordinator

South Suburban Family Shelter, Inc.


Polly Poskin, Executive Director

Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Assault


Shareese Pryor, Assistant Attorney General

Civil Rights Bureau

Office of the Attorney General of Illinois


Jessica Punzo, Psy.D., Director

Anti-Violence Project

Center on Halsted


Michele Rasmussen, Dean of Students in the University

Campus and Student Life

The University of Chicago


Valerie Reynolds, Communications Director


The University of Chicago


Shawnelle Richie, Director

Communications & Public Affairs

CBS 2 Chicago


Amy Rubin, Senior Director

Community Services

Jewish Child & Family Services


Carol Ruderman, Executive Director



Vickie Smith, CEO

Executive Director

Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence


Julie Smolyansky, Founder



Morgan Soloski, Manager

Marketing & Communications

Joyful Heart Foundation


Charlie Stoops, PhD, Co-Founder

Center for Advancing Domestic Peace Inc.


Graduate School of Social Work

Dominican University


Mary Toomey, Senior Vice President, Human Resources

Bank of America


Kim Wells, Executive Director

Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence


Jennifer Yonan, Executive Director

Zacharias Sexual Abuse Center


For victims, witnesses and loved ones

Remember that you are not to blame for being abused or mistreated, and that you are not the cause of your abuser’s behavior. You deserve to be treated with respect, and deserve a safe and happy life. And remember that you are not alone. There are people waiting to help you.

Domestic violence resources




Local resources

National resources

Sexual assault resources



  • Chicago Rape Crisis Hotline                                                  (Operated by YWCA Metropolitan Chicago)


Local resources


National resources


For legal assistance

    • Life Span
      Offers legal representation to empower survivors of domestic and sexual violence

For the abuser

If you think you might be an abuser, you should remember:

  • Abuse is always a choice. Don’t make excuses or blame others.
  • Think about the consequences of your abuse.
  • Accept that you have hurt people.
  • Do not try to justify your actions.
  • Accept the personal and legal consequences of your actions.

  • Get help. A good rehabilitation program will help you stop being abusive and will make better relationships possible.
  • If you have a partner, respect their right to be safe and healthy as you work toward change, even if it means you cannot be together.
  • Changing is a difficult but necessary process. But you are not alone.

National resources

Local resources

  • Center for Advancing Domestic Peace Inc.
    A project to provide partner abuse intervention services and teach relationship skills that can help program participants end their violence
  • Hope at St. Pius V
    Helps the whole family – those who suffer violence, perpetrate violence or witness violence – free itself and heal its wounds
  • IPDAV – Lake County



Our blog

  • Chicago Says No More leads the way for salon professionals to Listen. Support. Connect.

    By Jessica McCarihan Jessica McCarihan is a member of the Steering Committee of Chicago Says No More and a trained advocate for victims of domestic violence. A first in the country, the Cosmetology Re...

  • How I Learned the Importance of Advocacy

    By Deborah L. Graham Deborah Graham, a member of the Steering Committee of Chicago Says No More, is Senior Advisor, Illinois State Treasurer Office. I started to advocate because I survived domestic v...

  • Tone at the Top

    Chicago Says No More CEO Breakfast By Kristie Paskvan Mesirow Chairman and CEO Richard Price, and CFO Kristie Paskvan with Illinois Attorney General Lisa Madigan, featured speaker at the Chicago Says ...



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